The night before, we'd cycled home from school by the 'quiet route' - at my daughter's request. She's right,
it is a lovely calming ride. But the one weakness - and why I tend not to take that route more often - is a slightly dodgy intersection at the end of our road. The roads are slightly askew, the sightlines often blocked by parked cars, and in one direction cars are coming off a humped bridge, which makes their velocity difficult to determine.
Which made me think - we can do everything 'right' - lights, helmets, bells and whistles - but if the drivers are annoyed at our presence on the road 'holding them up', they're not going to think 'well, at least they were in hiviz'. It doesn't bloody well make any difference. As a pedestrian crossing that road, I'm treated with respect. As a cyclist, I'm seen as an inconvenience (at best), and my behaviour's not going to change that.
If drivers are going to be anti-cyclist, then us trying to make nicey-nicey just isn't going to change anything.